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Generally you are going to want your kids to have a value you find important, the ones that have worked for you throughout your life. Have you ever taken a good look at what they are? Identifying values you find important is the first step in teaching your values to your kids. Make a list of values that are most important to you. Brainstorm as many as you can think and write them down, the order does not matter. Then after you run out the idea, go back and prioritize the list from most to least important.
1. Cleanliness – a habit of keeping clean.
2. Courage – state of mind that enables one to face danger or fear with confidence.
3. Friendliness – state of being likeable to another person, enjoyment in their company.
4. Honesty – quality of being truthful.
5. Kindness – quality of being warm hearten, considerate, humane and sympathetic.
6. Responsibility – state, quality or fact of being accountable.
7. Compassion – deep awareness of the suffering of another coupled with the wish to relieve it.
When you have handle on which values you find most important for yourself, go back and make another list of the values you want for your kids to have. List the reasons you want your kids to have each value, and how you feel he will benefit.
All of us not perfect, then letting your children know that you are also a human, you’re teaching them to forgive, as you forgive them. Our children sometimes tell us if they are truly loved, it’s not measured by how many hours are spent with them or if you were tired that day and lost your cool. Children measured only by how much money you can spend on them.
Although children already know that you are not perfect. Also they know how much you love them, you can’t fool a child, they are spirit like you and I. They are the most honest people on the earth. Believe me, they are honest and will forgive your mistakes, please forgive yourself. No one of us has ever been a perfect parent, not ever. If you love yourself, then you forgive yourself.
Remember this poet wrote by Irish Playwright:
“To love oneself is the beginning of a lifelong romance.”
So if you love yourself, then forgive yourself, which is another lesson your child will pick up from you, it’s win, win the situation! So be cool and relax, bask in the fullness of your reciprocal love with your child.
Children who thumb suck, more than likely have developed the unconscious behavior because of soothing effect. Some babies, thumb sucking can be habit formed in the womb. In general children begin to out grow the habit of sucking their thumb around age 4 to 5 years old, discontinuing the behavior all on their own. Help your child to stop this habit sooner; you will have to be both patient and observant.
Discourage and encourage – like any unwanted behavior your child exhibits, when it come to thumb sucking, you want to be firm in your disapproval. You also want to be expressive in your approval of positive behaviors. When you try discouraging encourage method, you are combining your disapproval with option that has your approval. Remember when discourage your child don’t do so in a manner that will make him feel ashamed; thumb sucking is an unintentional behavior.
Create reward system – child responds well to behavioral correction that is part of reward system, even when the reward is something simple as sticker. Creating reward system for the purpose of thwarting thumb sucking will encourage her to be self aware and stop the behavior. Good system to try is the piggy bank system, this works by rewarding your child with penny every time you notice her not sucking her thumb.
Raising a teenager can be difficult, you say one thing she does another, although we have all been during teenager stage, it can be difficult to relate when you are the parents. Help to improve your relationship with your teenager, also maintain the responsibilities of parents.
Discuss the issues with your teenager, do not lecture, lecturing simply put your child to be defensive. Follow the rules and consequences, do not back track, the teenager need to realize you mean business. Lead by example, give your teenager a positive role model, and make her desire to be more like you. Set reasonable goals for your teenager; do not expect more than he can give.
Do not judge too harshly, teenager is going to slip up; she is still young and learning, try to work through problems with her as opposed to yelling and making demands. Do not point out only negative behavior; make sure give plenty of praise when it is due. Have a regular family dinner, this is good opportunity to remain close to your family and ask about your teenager day. Take an active role in your teenager life; do not leave the parenting or educating to someone else. Share your thought, fears and feeling with your teenager, when appropriate, this will encourage him to do the same. Express your love, make it sure your teenager knows you will be there no matter what, a great support system goes a long way.
Early childhood education can provide children with consistent routines and unlimited learning opportunities. A lot of children enrolled in child care setting from infancy to the time they enter to elementary school. During these early years, children go through several critical stages of development and consistent high quality education can have long lasting, beneficial effects on overall development of children.
Social and emotional development, allow your children to attend same early education throughout his or her early years will foster relationship with adults and other children in that environment which provide a sense of security. A child who is comfortable with a people in her life is more likely to participate in learning opportunities and advanced cooperative play like role playing with others, playing games with rules and working with other to accomplish goals. A child’s who experience consistent child care demonstrates less aggressive behavior because of their ability to inter act child with others and use their language to resolve conflicts.
Cognitive development, consistent early education and child care can significantly impact a child cognitive development. Child enrolled in high quality early education program that provides developmentally appropriate curricula for children from infancy through age of five, enable children to develop specific cognitive skills at appropriate age. Example, showing interest in stories read, recognizing and identifying colors in pre-school and writing letters of alphabet to create words. Child care program with developmentally appropriate early childhood curriculum help children develop cognitive skills on developmental continuum, meaning the programs build on child’s existing skills and knowledge to help them acquire new skills and knowledge.
Language development occurs at rapid pace in children between ages of one to five years old. Child who is secure in their environment and with the people around them are more likely to engage frequent, age-appropriate conversations. These daily interactions lead to more advanced language skills by promoting vocabulary development and conversational skills. Through early education activities like daily group discussion, songs, finger plays and read a loud; children develop a fundamental language skills they will continue to build on through out their lifetimes.
Children are always watching what happen around them, taking not of how the adult in their lives handle problems and deal with situations. With the amount of influence that kids get from their peers and from the media, it is very important that adult in their lives model the behavior they want children to emulate.
HOW TO BE A GOOD ROLE MODEL
Model healthy lifestyle, take your kids on walk and encourage physical activity. Eat healthy foods and do not engage on risky health behaviors.
Take your kids work with you and let them see you in places outside your house. They will see how you interact with others and observe the results of your hard work.
Get involved in activities in community and encourage your child to do the same. Allow your kids to see the world outside their home and get satisfaction of helping other people. This allows your kids to be role models for other people as well.
Model healthy relationship; do not let your kids see you fighting with your husband.
Resolve conflicts with your children in calm manner treat them with a respect and listen to what they are saying.
Match your actions with your words, to be a good role model; you have to do what you say.
Make sure that you are unknowingly setting a bad example for your kids. If someone calls and you do not want to talk to them, do not tell your child to say you aren’t home. You do not want to pass on the message that it is all right to lie if it is convenient.
The first intervention point for effective child discipline is giving your child instructions. Effective directing of child behaviour from young age will assure that conflict and frustration will minimized. If your child is older, it is not too late to begin give instructions effectively. You will be rewarded a greater compliance from your child and he in turn will feel more secure in the family hierarchy.
Here are some simple step and begin to apply today. Keep practicing until they become second nature to you.
BEFORE GIVING INSTRUCTION:
Decide what you want for your child to do and when you want it done.
Decide what consequences you will give if your child does not comply.
Decide whether you will offer the child choice.
And determine where you will not compromise and where you will be more flexible.
GIVING THE CHILD INSTRUCTIONS:
Go to the child or call him.
Make a direct eye contact.
State the need and what you want.
Be very specific give one step at a time.
Be aware of whether he begins to comply.
Praise him when he complies.
And next, we will look at the second intervention point, when a child does not comply with your instructions.
Child discipline is important and emotional issue of a parent especially on elementary age of children. We worry about the misbehavior and how we should handle it. Ongoing behavior problems lead us to feel frustrated angry. We dislike having punished to our children.
Majority of the parents need to learn more effective ways to discipline children. Effective discipline helps children to develop self-control, empathy and respect for authority. Both spoiled and harshly disciplined children are risk for emotional and behavioral problems. One new approach or discipline strategy can change course of children development.
Children are different and parents so, as you explore discipline principles he you should choose strategies that fit to your family. Take the risk to try something new.
Some parents enjoy the act of disciplining their child, if administered correctly; it’s one of the greatest gifts you will ever give. Effective disciplines to teach the children of their actions have direct impact on the outcome of any situation. Children who learn to make positive, healthy choices in life will continue good decision making habits into adulthood. Here are some effective technique to ensure your child learn valuable lessons that will last a lifetime.
- Consider the areas which your child has the most trouble and what might be done in order to prevent the problem.
- Decide a appropriate consequences to a negative behavior before a conflict to your child ever occurs. Consequences should be age appropriate, like time out for one minute per year of age to younger child and removal of value privileges for older children.
- Clearly express your expectations to your kids and present the consequences he will face if he chooses negative behavior, know exactly what the consequences of his choices are beforehand allow the kids to consider option before choosing a actions.
- Issue a warning, authoritative voice when prohibited behavior is observed and remind your child the consequences that the result if he continues his actions.
- Avoid temptation to give in to tantrums, arguments or manipulation from your child.
- Be consistent and make sure that all caregivers are on the same page when doling out discipline.
- Look the opportunities to praise your child when he is doing the right things.
Screaming, tantrums, broken object and crying are give little guidance from caregivers, children behavior can be stopped.
GIVE A REWARD; be sure the reward is positive, children often engage in misbehavior because they are too young to know something is acceptable. Positive behavior are rewarded the child gains better understanding of what is appropriate. Provide a reward for proper behavior in many ways like compliments money, trip to a place wishes your child to go or allow your child to have increased responsibilities or freedom like staying a bit later at their friends home. What ever you do be consistent and reward the behavior every time it is witnessed, conversely be firm in withholding the rewards when improper behavior is seen.
CLARITY AND AUTHORITY; make sure instruction is clear and authoritative, it is important to remember that child does not have life experiences or full understanding that adult may have. Child need to have behavioral expectations laid out in way that is easy for her to understand, communicate what you want her to do like manner that there is no room for misinterpretation. Explain concisely why you want her to do something. Don’t back down once you made a decision, a child is more likely misbehave when she knows that caregiver will not uphold the rules. Child constantly tests limits as they become more independent. Remember that you not child is in charge even as you attempt to listen in an understanding way.
ATTENTION; avoid providing attention for negative behaviors, sometimes misbehavior is the result of child wanting attention, the child acts out simply because she assumes that any attention from caregiver is better than no attention at all. If it is the case of your child do not upset. Instead, tell her firmly that you will not respond to negative actions, example throwing or biting, remain calm, carry out any punishment or disciplinary action of which you warned the child like putting her in time out for five minutes. After the discipline, always make sure the child understands why you acted as you did, what she did wrong and that you are not angry with her.