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Sometimes it’s hard to a parents to remember that discipline is more about teaching than punishment. It is easy to get frustrated when your child acts out in public. Keeping cool and calm and follow these some tips to make an outing with your kids delight instead of disaster.
Set a clear boundaries for your child and let him know ahead of time what is expected of him. Stay calm, and consistent when disciplining and setting boundaries. Remember that each child has different temperament and development styles. Correct you child’s poor behavior without criticizing or belittling her as a person.
Praise a good behavior by providing positive reinforcement. Most of the children want to receive praise. If they know you will praise their good behavior then they are more likely to follow the boundaries set for them. Offer rewards for good behavior.
Generally you are going to want your kids to have a value you find important, the ones that have worked for you throughout your life. Have you ever taken a good look at what they are? Identifying values you find important is the first step in teaching your values to your kids. Make a list of values that are most important to you. Brainstorm as many as you can think and write them down, the order does not matter. Then after you run out the idea, go back and prioritize the list from most to least important.
1. Cleanliness – a habit of keeping clean.
2. Courage – state of mind that enables one to face danger or fear with confidence.
3. Friendliness – state of being likeable to another person, enjoyment in their company.
4. Honesty – quality of being truthful.
5. Kindness – quality of being warm hearten, considerate, humane and sympathetic.
6. Responsibility – state, quality or fact of being accountable.
7. Compassion – deep awareness of the suffering of another coupled with the wish to relieve it.
When you have handle on which values you find most important for yourself, go back and make another list of the values you want for your kids to have. List the reasons you want your kids to have each value, and how you feel he will benefit.
Our expectation to our daughter is to keep up their cuteness extend past looks and into the real of behavior. Stereo types lead us to believe that girls should always maintain mellow temperament, sense of propriety and eagerness to please, but that is just not fair or feasible.
Like their counter part I mean boys, girls are live mammals. Toddler girls have tantrums, teens girls have outbursts. Girls may do some very un-cute, unladylike things, like throw a toy or slam a door or even just refuse to help mom to carry something, because they can be just as mad, rebellious, and stubborn as a boys. While they can tough to handle discipline wise, these bad behaviors are associated with gaining independence, nurturing assertiveness and building self identity. You do not have to accept your daughter’s bad behavior but you do have to accept her potential to misbehave and have a bad day. Otherwise you may be in for rude awakening.
Discipline is a daunting but necessary is a part of being a parent, from the moment a baby become toddler and begins exploring the surrounding; discipline plays a crucial role in protecting him from harm and teaching him right from wrong. There is more discipline than simple punishment and parents can try a variety of methods to help mold their unique child.
Provide choices, providing your child with choices is good way to make her feel like she has some control in a situation, and make it sure that all of the choices are acceptable to you so that whatever the child chooses you will both be satisfied.
Change your wording, simply changing the wording of your request and direction can make child more likely obeying, one way to do this is to change negative wording into positive wording.
Create a behavior chart, sometimes child’s unacceptable behavior continues despite your effort. Creating a chart to track her behavior throughout the week can help both for child and you to monitor good and bad behavior.
Assign task, to keep your child from acting up in certain places and situation like in the grocery store give him a task that will occupy him. I he’s helping you during your shopping he less likely to act up in the store.
Good child discipline show a respect for child and parents, discipline techniques that belittle or shame a child are truly harmful. If your relationship with your children has become power struggle, then control not discipline has become your goal.
Defuse this toxic relationship with good listening skills, show a respect for your child’s feeling and thoughts while standing firm on your expectations for a good behavior. Respect for the parents and other authorities are crucial to self-discipline and healthy development. Help your child to learn respect for authority by making your own words and actions as parents worthy of respect.
The first intervention point for effective child discipline is giving your child instructions. Effective directing of child behaviour from young age will assure that conflict and frustration will minimized. If your child is older, it is not too late to begin give instructions effectively. You will be rewarded a greater compliance from your child and he in turn will feel more secure in the family hierarchy.
Here are some simple step and begin to apply today. Keep practicing until they become second nature to you.
BEFORE GIVING INSTRUCTION:
Decide what you want for your child to do and when you want it done.
Decide what consequences you will give if your child does not comply.
Decide whether you will offer the child choice.
And determine where you will not compromise and where you will be more flexible.
GIVING THE CHILD INSTRUCTIONS:
Go to the child or call him.
Make a direct eye contact.
State the need and what you want.
Be very specific give one step at a time.
Be aware of whether he begins to comply.
Praise him when he complies.
And next, we will look at the second intervention point, when a child does not comply with your instructions.
Child discipline is important and emotional issue of a parent especially on elementary age of children. We worry about the misbehavior and how we should handle it. Ongoing behavior problems lead us to feel frustrated angry. We dislike having punished to our children.
Majority of the parents need to learn more effective ways to discipline children. Effective discipline helps children to develop self-control, empathy and respect for authority. Both spoiled and harshly disciplined children are risk for emotional and behavioral problems. One new approach or discipline strategy can change course of children development.
Children are different and parents so, as you explore discipline principles he you should choose strategies that fit to your family. Take the risk to try something new.
Disciplining children is an ongoing process when raising children and there are a times when parents question their discipline tactics and methods. Most important aspect of discipline is keeping calm when handling out punishment or when you are in disagreement with your child. Here are some tips to the parent for staying calm while disciplining your child.
- Make sure your child is listening to you if you ask him to do something. If your chill is distracted with television or playing a toys remove the distraction look him in the eyes and tell him what you need. These help the parent to avoid fights over chores or other task because the child is full of attention.
- Remember that children go through stages where they test boundaries and see what they can get away with, keep calm by reminding yourself that your discipline style sets boundaries and establish rules.
- Leave the room if your child has pushed you over the edge. If you are screaming and losing cool, walk into different room and calm down. Think of ways you can handle the situation differently when you re-enter the room.
- Respond with positive comment, even when your child screams. Tell her you love her and only want what’s best to her. If you do not react to insult and negative remark with your own negative remark, she loses interest and serves out whichever punishment you are given.
Just like adults, children also often lie to avoid punishment, because parents have the responsibility to model good behavior and teach children from wrong, it’s important to teach children to be truthful. When the child lies, use the situation as a way to teach the behavior you desire.
Make a plan for dealing with lying, determine a punishment for lying. A child of six or seven might lose television or computer privileges for a day or two. Talk to your child about lying so he or she understands the importance of being truthful. Talk about how important it is to tell the truth even if he or she fears consequences. Promise your child that if he or she tells the truth about a mistake you will not punish the child as harshly.
Avoid creating situation which a child will want to lie, example if you know that a child disobeyed you do not ask the child if he or she disobeyed you. This will tempt the child to lie to try to avoid punishment, instead approach the situation without putting the child in the position of fighting the temptation to lie and instead deal directly with disobedience.
Explain a child why you are punishing him or her when he lies, give the punishment for lying that you already discussed with your child. Give punishment for disobeying also. Make both punishments separate and make sure you explain the distinction to your child so he or she understands you’re punishing he or her both lying and disobeying.
Children have lots of different reference points of behavior, in daily basis children expose to television, media, movies and advertising that make challenging to teach honesty, respect, humility and generosity. To complicate the matter further, other children more receptive to discipline and teaching techniques than others. Growing your children with strong values prepares her for the world in front of her and gives her the tools to make the best possible choices.
Teach your children a respect and manner, as a parent it is your job to set a good example to them. By being honest and respectful she should follow your lead and learn to have respect for other people and their property. By making effort to spend more time to your children you can rest assured the example your are setting will be passed on.
Teach your child diversity and acceptance, understanding that everyone has different will help her fit into society and help to build a virtuous nature that would make any parent proud. By teaching your children to treat other as she would want to be treated her; she will learn respect for people and her surrounding. Focus on positive reinforcement rather than negative reaction, if your child has a problem with sharing, point out when she is being generous and offer her praise.
Be aware of her surrounding and influence, with the abundance of technology in our world today she will be exposed in the new information daily. Example; tv programs, advertising, internet, video games, radio and music. By paying attention to what she is watching, what video game she is playing, you can determine if it is something you want your child influenced by.
Discipline your child, everyone makes mistakes and generally people learn from them, however children have to be taught what acceptable behavior is. Teach her/him right from wrong at an early age so he has a proper frame of reference for making decisions later in life.