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Child discipline is one of the toughest things that many parents will do, an ineffective and injurious discipline practice, can instill anger and other negative feelings and behavior for the child. When done properly discipline helps to guide the child toward healthy teen years and adulthood. The key component for effective discipline is consistency…
Explain to your child why you are disciplining her before you take a step to correct her behavior. In this can eliminates confusion and helps the child to understand they type of behavior you would like to see her exhibit in the future. Allow your child to experience consequences of her action, example your child breaking a toy of your neighbor, allow your child who lives next door to voice his disappointment to your child in a healthy way, it helps you to teach your child that there is consequences for his action, even when you are not around.
Take away your child a privilege, particularly for teens, normally receives. Eliminate and reduce allowances for older children. Disallow your child to visit her friends, play her favorite toys and watch television for one day, continue remove these privileges until you notice of improvement in your child behavior. Assign your older children an additional chores to perform like, cleaning a garage, scrubbing the bathroom, etc. avoid paying the child performing these additional responsibilities. But before the child begins this work, discuss the reason why you have given this additional chores with him so he clearly understand his misstep and what is expected of him in the future.
If your child has a high IQ, it is likely that you may not know it. Often children that are intellectually advanced for their age are not emotionally accelerated at all. These children can perform well in school, but not being on the same intellectual level as their peers, will likely make them experience social problems the most important thing to remember about raising a child with a high IQ is not that they are exceptionally smart, but that they are still children, deserving of a normal childhood.
Establish the same rules and guidelines for your child as you would for an average intellectual level child. Children who are intellectually smart aren’t necessarily socially adapted. They want structure just like any normal kid.
Formulate creative ways for your child to learn on a daily basis. Your child may get bored with activities that would normally satisfy other kids. Take arts and crafts, blocks and shapes to a mathematical level, exercising your child’s brain.
Accelerate your child without putting pressure on him. Gifted kids often thrive in a home school environment as it allows them to move at their own pace. If they are in public school, however, allow them to skip the occasional grade and even enter college early if it will not be detrimental to their development.
Enroll your child in music lessons, chess club, or some other intellectual outlet that gives them the opportunity for creative expression coupled with the learning of a practical skill.
Behavior process begins in childhood, to a child there is not difference between good and behavior. “Children must be taught good behavior so they can live and work well in society when they grow up”. These distinctions are made as the child grows and learn from parents. While there are varying ideas about teaching a child to behave properly, specific action and techniques used by parents to instruct their children can make a difference in how well a child learns to display good behavior.
Set example of good behavior for your children, since children often a mirror the behavior of their parents, this is one of the key ways to demonstrate the proper way to behave. Praise good behavior and consistently provide consequences for bad behavior. Consistency is important part of reinforcement. A lack of consistency can confuse a child about what constitutes good or bad behavior.
Explain situations to your child when necessary. Do not simply express disappointment or tell you child something is bad. Explain why the behavior is unacceptable. Allow your child to ask questions. When your child exhibits bad behavior, suggest alternative ways your child could have behaved under the same circumstances. Balance your distribution of consequences and praise. Most of the good behavior you child learns will come from watching you, but there will be times when you will need to address behavioral issues with your child.
Many young children learn the word sorry without realizing what it means. While some children apologize for the wrong reasons, others refuse to apologize at all. By teaching children about the significance of apologizing, parents give them necessary social skills, showing them how to take accountability. Lessons on apologizing prepare your child to behave in a compassionate and respectful manner. Give him the tools to not only say sorry, but also mean it.
Reasons for Apologies
Discussing the reasons for apologizing educates children about the consequences of their negative actions. Rather than simply telling your child to say sorry, ask her to think about the reasons she may feel sorry. If her actions affect someone else, prompt her to consider the way that person feels. After reviewing the results of her behavior, she will have the ability to feel sorry and prevent further offenses.
Nature of Apologies
Teaching children to explain their apologies helps reinforce the reason for apologizing. If your child repeatedly says sorry when breaking the rules, he will start to apologize by habit and disregard the need for apologies. If he hits a friend or sibling and just says “sorry,” ask him what he feels sorry for. Your child can then explain, “I’m sorry for hurting you,” personalizing the apology. After continual
reminders for detailed apologies, your child will start to do this naturally.
Children take their social cues from parents and role models. By modeling sincere apologies in appropriate situations, you show your child how and when to apologize. This includes not only apologizing to fellow adults, but also saying sorry to your child when warranted. Parents who do this display responsibility and humility, giving their children important social skills.
When teaching kids about apologizing, review with them the importance of accepting apologies. Children should understand that apologies don’t always repair a situation, but can mend relationships. As children learn to forgive, they realize the importance of apologies. By encouraging your child to accept apologies gracefully and forgive easily, you give her skills for peaceful conflict resolution.
A common complaint among parents is their inability to get their kids to listen to them or do as they are told. It is a real frustration, but one that is easy to remedy. When you shout, your message is lost on your children. Instead, there are simple voice-control techniques that you can employ to get your kids to listen.
Always talk to your children with respect, even when being firm. If they feel good about themselves they will react better to the situation and be able to think more clearly.
Speak to your children in a consistent and even tone for “everyday” conversation and requests, such as “Time to wash your hands for dinner” or “Make your bed, please.”
Find your voice of authority and use it only when your child has done something wrong or has not done what was asked of him.
Use your voice of authority along with a warning and consequence if your child does not respond to your authoritative voice alone. Whether the consequence is a naughty step or writing sentences does not matter. The key is consistency and only one warning.
So often bad behavior is just a form of getting attention. Your yelling at him is a form of attention. But if you can put into place a positive version of that attention, such as your voice of approval, your child will learn he can get that attention by behaving and doing well.
Resourcefulness is the motivation and drives to meet obstacles in different ways and allows children to use creative intelligence to make smart decisions. Children develop important problem solving skills as they practice making decisions which helps them build confidence and foster positive relationships with others.
Encourage your children curiosity and question. Assist your children in answering their question and locating the information but do not give the answer away.
Buy your children toys that allow them to think creatively like blocks, arts or pretend playing equipment like a play kitchen. These toys helps your children a lot of imagination when creating a car or a house, painting a picture of animals or flowers or pretending to play a restaurant with her playmates.
Teach your children how to think for themselves, example if your pre teen child comes home in tears because her friend insulted her in front of other playmates, coach her on survival skills.
Teach or demonstrate to your children the importance of recycling so they understand plastic and aluminum can be remade into the other products. Ask your children to donate some of their toys, books, and dress them no longer use to a homeless shelter for needy children. This teaches them the importance of not keeping every material object and helping those less fortune.
Raising kids doesn’t have to cost a fortune, a little time and effort you can provide your children and yourself with healthy meals, clothes and enriching opportunities and still stay true to your budget.
You much determine how much you can afford each month for foods, clothes and other needs. Explain to your children that you live on budget. Shop around for best deals on foods and clothing. Find out the bargain at yard sales and in classified ads.
Make family meals and baby food from scratch, save the expense of formula by opting to breast feed. Buy food in season and freeze milk. Pack school lunches instead of buying. Visit park, museums and zoos for inexpensive entertainment.
May children get their taste of social interaction in the school; it is there that they begin to develop their understanding of how friends are made and kept. But not all kids will find themselves fitting in. children who are classified as obese in particular will soon to discover some kids are not as friendly as they first appear to be. Sadly, this early rejection according to the study at the University of Adelaide can found more problems for the children later on in life.
Based on the results of the study a child who find them selves having a hard time making a friend at a young age might shy away from more social interactions in the future. They might choose to avoid joining clubs or participating in group activities because of the stigma they had suffered when they first started school.
Young as they are, today children are still growing up rather quickly, and as a parent you can either do your best to protect them or do your best to help them face their fears. Either way, you must not forget to let them know how much you love them and hopefully, that will be enough to guide them towards a better and brighter future.
By the time children enter primary school, they have developed several important fine motor skills, such the ability to tie a shoe or button a coat. However, as kids enter kindergarten, they are still learning new ones. And, while most people think of middle childhood as a time of developing mental capacity and adolescence as a time of physical change, middle childhood does witness some important milestones of motor development.
Many parents have a problem for distinguishing the difference between being a best friend and parenting. This kind of problem, lack of understanding it does create setback in relationship between the child and the parents. Children need parents to be parents. If you stick for being a parent the day will come when your relationship will evolve into a friendship. Follow some step to stay where your child needs you to be.
Be a parents all the time, caring, teaching, loving, truth, wisdom, knowledge are the ingredients that should never be absent in building a relationship will grow. Parents you listen as a friend but use parental practices for input. If your child worried about his buddies wanting him to drink and drive try to refrain from responding as a friend.
Respond as parents only, don’t be washy, wishy and say he shouldn’t drink and drive but if he does it’s understandable. Be friendly with her but in an adult manner and by issuing guidance only when requested. Laugh together, it is good to joke around and create memories that will last lifetime.
Spend time together by don’t be stingy, expect him to have days in which he prefers to be with his friends but if you have a good relationship there will be times he will choose to be with your rather than his friends. Always maintain the role as parents while she/he is growing up. When the day come when your children become adult and you will be both best friends.